Watch Whom You Let Drive!

So, I have this friend, who every single time I tell her I’m going somewhere, she insists on giving me directions. She is always super positive her input is correct, and since she is my friend (and I have known her forever), I listen. I follow the guidance to the T! And, each and every time, I am lost!

Once, I wanted to go to NY and she had me in Cali! Ya’ll, I live in Virginia!!!So, I said, “Listen, I am going to follow my GPS next time because you keep getting me lost!”

She insisted she would get it together and not get me lost again. Shortly after that, we were together going on our usual roadtrip and she is adamant she knows the way; this time I decide to let her drive. I get suspicious of the route, so I pull up Waze to get directions. As I am telling her the signs indicate we are going opposite of our destination, she continues her way anyway, and you guessed it lost a-dang-on-gain! This time I am livid. I say, “I am not letting you drive anymore, you always get us lost!”

You all won’t believe what she said to me!!! “It’s your own fault. You had GPS the entire time. You chose to follow what I said and you even let me drive, knowing I would get us lost. It is as much your fault as mine!”

That was the last time I let my Emotions lead me anywhere. From here on out, I will listen to my conscience (spirit). Don’t get me wrong, Emotions comes with me; she is super fun to have around!!! She just can’t lead the way!

Blessings!

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Roadtrip called life.

So, I have this friend, who every single time I tell her I’m going somewhere, she insists on giving me directions. She is always super positive her input is correct. Since she is my friend, and I have known her forever, I listen. I follow the guidance to the T! And, each and every time, I am lost!

Once, I wanted to go to NY and she had me in Cali! I live in Virginia!!!So, I said, “Listen, I am going to follow my GPS next time because you keep getting me lost!”

She insisted she would get it together and not get me lost again. Shortly after that, we were together going on our usual roadtrip and she is adamant she knows the way; this time I decide to let her drive. I get suspicious of the route, so I pull up Waze to get directions. As I am telling her the signs indicate was are going opposite our destination, she continues her route, and you guessed it lost a-dang-on-gain! This time I am livid.

I say, “I am not letting you drive anymore, you always get us lost.” You all won’t believe what she said to me!!! “It’s your own fault. You had GPS the entire time. You chose to follow what I said and you even let me drive, knowing I would get us lost. It is as much your fault as mine!”

That was the last time I let Emotions lead me anywhere. From here on out, I listen to my conscience (spirit). Don’t get me wrong, Emotions comes with me; she is super fun to have around!!! She just can’t lead the way!

Blessings!

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Why Can’t You Women Just Submit?

This morning, as I scrolled through Facebook, a post caught my attention. The author, “Most relationships FAIL because independent women don’t know how to fall in line and submit to their men!”

Now, I give leeway to youngsters for posts that are usually intended for shock value, but this post and the responses necessitated a response from my alter ego, “Miss Old Lady!”

“This statement alone is THE problem. To suggest that there is a magical “submission” wand that can be waved and instantly relationships will work is ridiculous.

Relationships are failing because unwhole, unhealthy people are birthing equally unhealthy children who grow up with the faintest idea of what a relationship is. So we substitute sex, lust, an orgasm (or faked one) and believe we are in love! There is no thought as to what it takes to bring two independent, whole, well people together to form a team! No I. No ME. Just US!

Then people who aren’t in healthy situations (in order to justify their own sad feelings) post disparaging comments to cause further discourse. It is as simple as this:

1. Love God with all your heart, soul, and mind.

2. Love yourself completely as He loves you. Give Him all of your holes, broken pieces, shortcomings, and voids. Let God fill those empty places so you don’t fall prey of thinking someone else can “make you happy or complete”!

3. Then you are well enough to love others AS YOU LOVE YOURSELF!

See, this is the real problem, we don’t know how to love ourselves (because we skipped step one) and we expect someone else who is equally broken to fill our voids.

Now, I am a fully independent woman who has learned steps 1 -3 and have been with my independent man for 39 years.

Hope this helps in answering the question.

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How to Handle Difficult Situations….

Life is a journey. The roads will not always be straight and smooth; some are winding, bumpy, contain obstacles, or are under construction. When you find that you are in a difficult place, or find yourself standing alone, I encourage you to remember the words of David when the people who once walked with him wanted to stone him. He did one simple thing. No, he didn’t cry. Though I am certain he may have wanted to. Nope, he did not whine. Nor did he retaliate. David encouraged himself in the Lord. You have to remember that one is never a lonely number when one is grounded in The ONE. Beloved, remember to be your own cheerleader and encourage yourself to go on. God has promised to never leave you nor forsake you. So during difficult times, look inward, the upward, and move forward!

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Good intentions but can’t help….

Taking advice from someone with no morals is like being saved from downing by a Lifeguard who can’t swim. They may have good intentions but without basic skills, they really can’t help.

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Live out Loud

Care about what people say – never.

Live, love, and laugh – often.

Enjoy every moment of your life – always.

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Your choice

How he believes he may treat you reveals his upbringing.
But how he actually treats you reveals yours.

You will be treated as you allow.
Nothing more.
Nothing less.
The choice is yours.

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